Suggested questions to spark conversation at your book club after reading For the Right Reasons: America’s Favorite Bachelor on Faith, Love, Marriage, and Why Nice Guys Finish First, written by Dallasite Sean Lowe, with Nancy French (Thomas Nelson, January 2015):
Before Sean became famous, he was involved with a business that tanked. He writes about the stress that kept him up at night: “I lay in bed and pulled the covers up to my neck. The ceiling had a shadow on it that had moved slightly over the past three hours I’d been staring at it.” Question: what galaxy does Sean live in that a bright moon could cast a shadow upward?
Of his next job, Sean writes: “I’d pray for God to deliver me from my job at State Farm. Then, since God obviously didn’t seem to be interested in delivering me from it, I’d get on the phone and beg people to buy insurance.” Questions: do you believe in direct intercession, the notion that God takes an active role in determining the course of your life? When Sean lands a gig as a model for the workout video series called “Body Beast,” do you think God made that happen?
At multiple points in the book, Sean describes doing shirtless push-ups for TV cameras. When he appeared on The Bachelorette, a woman named Wendy climbed on his back and called it “a dream come true.” Question: do you have dreams about sitting on men while they exercise?
Sean writes: “There is nothing more peculiar than seeing yourself kiss another person—especially in the close-up way The Bachelorette films it.” Question: that’s more peculiar than seeing yourself do shirtless push-ups while a woman rides you?
On the set of The Bachelor, Sean was tested. He writes: “Soon, I was kissing one of the girls while the other women looked on. Don’t get me wrong, I really enjoyed kissing. But I didn’t enjoy kissing in front of a room full of people whom the PDA is actually hurting.” Question: pretty peculiar, right?
Sean’s trials continued: “I’d go on an awesome date, have the time of my life, then wake up the next day and have another amazing date with a totally different woman.” Question: why didn’t Sean make a Sisyphus joke here?
Question: which is a worse name, Tierra or AshLee?
After Sean and Catherine got engaged, he competed on Dancing With the Stars. He writes: “Toward the end of the show, I didn’t have time to do anything except dance. I’d wake up, dance, get home, and go to bed—I just danced, danced, danced, with an occasional argument with Catherine squeezed in.” Question: how do you strive for work-life balance?
As the happy couple was driving back to Dallas from Los Angeles, they stopped at the famous Big Texan Steak Ranch in Amarillo, where, Sean claims, Catherine, previously a vegan, got a free meal by eating a 72-ounce steak, with sides, in under an hour. Questions: did you know that Catherine’s name does not appear on the restaurant’s 72OZ Hall of Fame and that the omission recently led a certain reporter to call the Big Texan and talk to a woman named Peggy, who confirmed that the couple had visited the restaurant but said that management had had to sign a confidentiality agreement, meaning Peggy could neither confirm nor deny that Catherine had successfully completed the 72-ounce steak challenge? Do you think it’s even possible that tiny Catherine could do that? Or do you suspect that Sean might be brilliant, that he slipped that fiction into his memoir hoping that Big Texan management would set the record straight, thereby breaching the confidentiality agreement and allowing Sean to reap millions?
Question: do you think Sean could do a push-up with his co-author, Nancy French, sitting on his back?