It’s not easy to co-parent after a divorce or separation, but it’s important to put your children first no matter what is going on between you and your ex. Putting your children first means making sure they’re safe, comfortable, and working toward the acceptance of these big new life changes.
In my family law practice at Goranson Bain Ausley, I encourage parents to be intentional about giving their children their best during a divorce. Below are two tips for helping to minimize the negative impact of divorce on children.
Set Hurt and Anger Aside
Successful co-parenting involves putting your anger, hurt, or resentment aside in favor of your children’s safety and security. It will be a difficult task, especially in the early days after the divorce or separation, but working cooperatively is essential and potentially the most vital part of co-parenting.
Give Your Children Permission to Love the Other Parent
Children sometimes feel the instinct to take sides or be protective of a parent. Your children should be free to continue or build a strong bond with both parents without the fear of thinking that their relationship with one parent will hurt the other parent.
Your children love both you and their other parent, and regardless of the reason for the divorce, it will be in your children’s best interest to continue to have a strong and loving relationship with both parents. This will benefit your children as they transition through divorce and make their own journey to their new normal.
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